Starting daycare marks the beginning of a new phase in families' lives. Your child is discovering a new environment, meeting other children, and building their first relationships with the teachers. This exciting time requires one thing above all: a careful and well-thought-out introduction.
The first few weeks at daycare lay the foundation for all subsequent transitions in your child's life. A successful transition to daycare or daycare strengthens their self-confidence and ability to adapt to new situations. Here's how to successfully navigate this important process.
What is the adjustment phase?
The acclimatization phase is a well-thought-out concept that allows your child a smooth transition from the family to daycare. Two scientifically sound models have been established in Germany.
The Berlin acclimatization model
This frequently used model relies on a gradual acclimatization in four phases:
- The initial phase lasts three days. As a parent, you stay with your child in the group for one to two hours. The teacher gently approaches the child and offers initial play activities.
- During the stabilization phase, the first brief attempts at separation occur. The educator increasingly assumes the role of primary caregiver. This phase can last several days.
- The final phase begins when your child accepts the teacher as a "safe base." Separation times gradually increase.
The Munich model
This model differs in its more parent-centered approach. Parents stay in the group longer and are actively involved in the day-to-day activities of the daycare center. Parents are separated only once the child has established a stable relationship with the teacher.
How long does it take to get used to daycare?
Whether it's settling in to kindergarten or daycare, you can expect it to take an average of seven to 28 days, with each child setting their own pace. Some children feel secure in their new environment after just one week, while others need six weeks or longer. Age plays an important role: while children under two often need more time, older children often adjust more quickly. Previous separation experiences, the child's temperament, and the bond with the parents also influence the length of time. Even the group size in the daycare or the number of key caregivers present can speed up or slow down the adjustment phase. What matters is not the time, but that your child feels safe and secure in the daycare. A successful start is more important than a quick completion of the adjustment period.
The best tips for a successful settling in
Before the first day of daycare
- Conduct regular daycare walks and observe what's happening with your child.
- Practice short periods of separation with relatives or friends.
- Set a regular sleep-wake rhythm that fits in with your daycare routine.
- Buy a nice backpack and a water bottle together.
- Label all personal items with your child's name.
Proven familiarization rituals
- Choose a small cuddly toy as a constant companion.
- Develop a personal farewell saying.
- Agree on a fixed farewell ritual (e.g. waving at the window).
- Agree on a specific pick-up signal (e.g., “Right after lunch”).
- Plan a special “welcome home” moment.
For a relaxed start
- Prepare everything the night before (clothes, bag, breakfast).
- Plan enough time buffer in the morning.
- Give your child a photo of the family.
- Let your child bring a favorite toy.
- Wear comfortable clothes that make it easier to put on and take off independently.
For calm parents
- Speak positively about the daycare center and the teachers.
- Show understanding for tears, but don't dramatize them.
- Keep the farewell short and clear.
- Always be honest – no secret goodbyes.
- Ask the teachers about the day.
- Don't plan any additional major changes in the first few weeks.
- Give yourself some time off during childcare.
After daycare
- Take time for intensive attention.
- Let your child talk about his or her experiences.
- Create a calm atmosphere at home.
- Allow sufficient rest breaks.
The central role of educators in the familiarization process
Attachment research by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth shows that children need a secure base to explore their environment. In daycare, educators gradually assume the role of an additional attachment figure. Following Mary Ainsworth's concept of sensitivity, they respond promptly and appropriately to the child's signals. They carefully observe when the child seeks closeness or needs space.
Communication with parents follows the Fthenakis concept of parenting partnership. Daily informal conversations provide information about the child's successes, challenges, and well-being. The educators document important developmental milestones and share their observations in regular developmental meetings. This transparent communication builds trust and allows parents to know their child is in good hands, even in their absence.
From daycare to school - an important developmental step
A successful daycare transition lays the foundation for all subsequent transitions in your child's educational journey. Educational research studies show that children who have positive daycare transition experiences also handle the start of school with more confidence. They have learned that change offers exciting opportunities and that new caregivers are trustworthy.
Special gifts for the start of daycare
Starting daycare is a special milestone, and you can make it unforgettable with a personalized gift . Practical companions with a personalized touch create a sense of familiarity and ease your child's transition into their new routine.
Popular personalized gifts for daycare children:
- sturdy lunch box with name and favorite motif
- Lunch box and leak-proof drinking bottle with personal engraving
- Gym bag with name for change of clothes
- T-shirts with individual design
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Children's cup for breakfast together
FAQ - Frequently Asked Questions
How long does the adjustment period at a daycare center take?
The adjustment period typically lasts two to four weeks, with each child setting their own individual pace. While some children settle into daycare after just one week, others need up to six weeks to settle in safely.
What makes it easier for children and parents to settle in?
A regular farewell ritual and a familiar object from home provide the child with security in the new environment. Regular conversations with the teachers and a positive attitude from the parents toward daycare also support the adjustment process.
At what age does acclimatization make sense?
Daycare acclimatization is generally possible from the first year of life, but the period between the ages of 2 and 3 is particularly favorable. Since children at this age have already developed a basic understanding of routines but still react flexibly to new situations, they often find it easier to adjust.